BOOK REVIEW: F*cked – Being Sexually Explorative and Self-Confident in a World That’s Screwed by Corinne Fisher and Krystyna Hutchinson

BOOK REVIEW: F*cked – Being Sexually Explorative and Self-Confident in a World That’s Screwed by Corinne Fisher and Krystyna Hutchinson

Little, Brown Book Group
October 2017
Paperback, $32.99
Reviewed by Natalie Salvo

Non-Fiction / Family & Health / Family & Relationships / Sex & Sexuality

9/10

We live in a world where sex is ubiquitous, but one thing that is often missing is good advice when it comes to intercourse and sexuality. Corinne Fisher and Krystyna Hutchinson are American comedians, writers, and the hosts of the popular podcast, Guys We F**ked: The Anti Slut-Shaming Podcast. These women receive hundreds of emails with questions from people all over the world about different topics relating to sex. Some great answers can be found in their debut book, F*cked – Being Sexually Explorative and Self-Confident in a World That’s Screwed, as it follows on from the themes they’ve discussed over the past few years in their podcast and they tackle this wide range of topics in a frank, open, and often funny manner.

Hi! We’re Corinne Fisher and Krystyna Hutchinson, co-hosts of Guys We F**ked: The Anti Slut-Shaming Podcast, a weekly comedic discussion about human sexuality, relationships and taboos that has garnered an absurdly large and loyal following (mostly because people feel a greater sense of sexual shame and hook-up hang-ups than we could have ever imagined).

This podcast began when Fisher was heartbroken and seeking advice and help from her friend, Hutchinson. Fisher was suffering a mental break-down and then had the idea of confronting her past relationships, High Fidelity-style, through interviewing her previous lovers. With this idea, a podcast was born. Both women originally started off interviewing their former partners, flings and hook-ups but eventually they broadened their focus and began interviewing different people about a range of different subjects relating to relationships and sex. The aim was to break down taboos and the sense of shame that many people have around sex and to ultimately allow people to become more positive about this important and fundamental act.

As the interviews with former flings, f**k buddies, and ex-boyfriends piled up, so did the e-mails in our inbox. Without prodding, subscribers began to furiously seek sex, dating, and relationship advice from us—two pretty regular twenty-somethings. And all those emails were connected by one overbearingly common thread: shame.
These letters from strangers served as an alarming wake-up call about society’s relationship with sexuality. So we began to dive deeper with our guests and our subject matter—the darker, the better. While comedy was still the glue that held every f**ked up story together, we regularly laughed and cried with our guests about abortion, pedophilia, rape, sexual assault, domestic abuse, stalking and suicide.

This volume is made up of a collection of different essays that are organised into sections like: shame, private parts, sexual acts, relationships, safe sex and serious stuff as well as an introduction and conclusion. Each girl tackles a topic on her own and covers this in both a conversational way and in sufficient depth. In Fisher’s case, the topics are often about self-confidence, body positivity, and eliminating blame, while Hutchinson tackles more uncomfortable topics like strange-but-true fetishes, rape fantasies, and when a partner crosses a boundary during sex.

It wasn’t until I physically pushed him off me and screamed at him that he stopped, and I could see his face get pale with horror. He realized that what he just did was rape-y, and he knew I knew it was rape-y, and he felt like shit about it for a long time after that. I think it’s important to point out that this sort of thing can and does happen in relationships at varying levels of severity and every person’s reaction to this rape-y/-ish situation is different. That’s okay. You can be upset or totally unfazed or angry. You can truly not give a flying f**k or you can break up with a person because of it…It’s the piece of advice we come back to time and time again: talk honesty about the situation and everything will be okay.

There is some very sincere and practical advice in this book. The girls offer us some commandments for the sisterhood, which remind us that we should all be kinder to women. There is a frank discussion about Stuart Brody’s study that explored the benefits of vaginal-penile intercourse for females including: improved vaginal and pelvic-muscle function, strengthened cardiovascular health, decreased hot flushes in menopausal women, decreased likelihood of developing breast cancer, and lowered susceptibility to and a faster recovery from stress.

Fisher also provides some useful advice for sending nudes, something that has become more important than ever before. The most significant advice, however, is how important good communication between sexual partners is, because a lot of issues can be solved by a more honest and frank discussion about sex. Hutchinson offers us the following questions as a good starting point to ask your partner:

– What do you fantasize about when you masturbate?
– Do you have any kinks?
– How do you like to cum?
– When was the last time you got tested?
– How else do you practice safe sex?
– Do you want kids?

F*cked is an excellent book that helps to normalise and encourage open and honest discussions about sex. It is one that should resonate with some readers thanks to its depth of topics (although that said, it does focus almost exclusively on cisgender heterosexual relationships by virtue of the fact that both of the podcast’s hosts and the book’s writers are cisgender heterosexual women). F*cked is ultimately a smart, informative and entertaining collection of well-written and well-considered topics that should allow us all to get real about sex.

BOOK REVIEW: F*cked - Being Sexually Explorative and Self-Confident in a World That’s Screwed by Corinne Fisher and Krystyna Hutchinson

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